As a life coach in NYC, one of my favorite questions to ask my clients is, “If I gave you a billion dollars right now, what would you do with your life?”
I love to ask this because it gives me meaningful insight … like, the really juicy stuff … into their dreams, their values and the limits they put on themselves and their lives.
Usually, the answers are about letting go. Letting go of something or someone. “If I had a BILLION DOLLARS! Well …
“ … I’d quit my horrible job and travel the world”
“ … I’d finally leave my miserable girlfriend and get my own place”
“ … I’d stop fighting this damn lawsuit and just move on with my life.”
“And how do you imagine you’d feel once you made this change?” I ask.
“… free. I would feel like I’m finally free”
Freedom … it’s one of our most treasured values. To have nothing holding us back from being able to do whatever we want, when we want and how we want. To be WHO we want.
But all through life we’re told to reign it in! To allow for restrictions of our freedom.
We’re taught to let other people’s expectations drive our choices. In the name of respect, or tradition, or duty, or love, or niceness. In order to honor these values, you’ve been taught to limit your freedom.
So, does that make you a little angry? Bitter even? I get it! Because you’ve tasted freedom before! Remember? And it was THE BEST. Remember when you were carefree and single and in your early 20s? Your whole life ahead of you. Nobody could tell you what to do.
Or during that month-long backpacking trip across South America. Holy crap! You … Read More ...